I remember so vividly being in grade 6 and going through some friend drama with my close friend group at the time. I was so upset by what was going on that I actually spent lunch after lunch hiding and weeping behind a corner in the grade 1-3 play area. At the time I genuinely thought I was never going to have any friends. 

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I was half right for a bout a decade. 

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Even though I moved through what happened in grade 6 okay, I still found myself surrounded by people who I wanted to call my friends but just couldn't.

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We'd go out to the nearby corner store and play video games and even share some laughs, but at the same time they'd

• Make fun of the way I talked

• Laugh at how "sensitive" I was

• call me gay (in a derogatory way) for liking female characters in video games

• Think it was weird that I didn't always want to socialize. 

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And look, this isn't a woe is me story. I said and did a lot of messed up stuff to. But that's what was the norm.

 

Then I discovered mindset work. 

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I'd always been into mindset (through binge watching youtube videos) but I'd never actually applied it to my daily life. 

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My friend at the time recommended a podcast and I was hooked. I remember failing not 1, not 2, but THREE midterms one week because I was up all night listening to this podcast. It just made sense.

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After joining Get Coached: Scholars a program where you can get coached, + I knew immediately that I had to become a coach as well as a client. 

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My friendship life now is unrecognizable. I know my own worth as a friend and I know exactly what I deserve in a friendship. I know that because I'm an amazing, kind, caring, compassionate friend, I deserve the same OR a version of that in my friends. 

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My friend more than anything, I was so scared to want. I was scared that to have standards for myself and my friends meant that I was asking for too much. But after learning that wanting big is what helped me grow as a friend and person as well, it was a done deal.

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I'm not going to sit here and say my friendship life is perfect. I still get the anxiety sometimes when someone takes longer to text back. I still question the emoji use, the tone, the disappointment at plans fallen through.

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The two big differences here now though are the connecting, nourishing and FUN friendships I have now make it all worth it, AND I know how to many any thought-feeling cocktail that comes up when I'm challenged with something in my friendships.

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When I figured out the formula, I knew I couldn't keep it a secret. It felt morally wrong honestly. So here we are.

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I know exactly what it’s like to feel lonely, disconnected, and hopeless when it comes to the idea of changing things in my friendships. It means the world to me that I get the chance to help you create your version of success in your friendship life too.